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New Friends

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New friends

New friends are always fun to have. I love making them, you start out having long conversations and then you run out of things to talk about. You end up talking about everything and nothing, then when you find a topic and you exhauste it. You sit there wrecking your brain trying to find something else to talk about. You crack a joke, and gets ignored. Then you wonder if your friend is getting bored with you and you ask them.They ignore the question, and it kind of hurts your feelings, but you let it slide because the friendship is new.

🤔 Now here’s the conundrum how do you explain feelings when all you’re doing is texting. They can’t see your face or hear the inflection in your voice, or know that you’re laughing, or giggling, unless you tell them so.

😱 I forget to do that sometimes, and sometimes the emotions come out wooden, and hollow, or too intense without ever meaning to offend, or scare them off it just happens that way.I’ve been told I have a big heart but sometimes I think it gets in the way. I don’t know what to do. Maybe I just wait and see, maybe it’s just me being paranoid again I don’t want to drive my friend away by saying the wrong thing.

I’m being honest at least with my friend I don’t believe in lying. Though I may have to work on tact. I can be brutally honest and I don’t want to accidentally hurt his feelings or annoy him yes it’s him oh I have female friends that I have the same fears with don’t get me wrong sometimes I think I work too hard or not hard enough. I’m hard on myself when it comes to this kind of thing.

🧐 🤯 🫶 It all comes down to self-esteem and sometimes mine’s not so great it’s hard to show unconditional love to others when you don’t have it for yourself when you feel worthless because you can’t do much you want to go out and have a good time but when pain or because you know you’re too slow and can’t keep up because you have to mosey or you’ll hurt yourself you can be a real pain in the ass let me tell you you always feel like you’re getting left out even when you’re not.

Well I’ll leave you with this.

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To be a good friend you accept them for who they are not what they can do for you you love them for them,unconditionally, warts and all. And Hope and pray that they will do the same for you. Remember in your heart of hearts that not all people are like you. I have come to that realization I laugh at myself when I forget that but there are some really amazing people out there, and never stop trying to make friends.

I don’t.

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Healing After Divorce: Finding Freedom

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Well, He left me for someone else.

It only hurt the first time, when he asked for the divorce, but by the time he broke all ties with the first woman and came home, I had pretty much let him go and was just a very good friend with benefits. And we tried for a second go, or so I thought. NOT!!! He started dating within weeks of coming home, found a New squeeze, moved in with her after a month, and I found out from the girlfriend that he is finally finalizing the Divorce on FB, no less. Needless to say, I was really pissed off because it was not her place to put her nose in my personal business.

And with a great amount of narcissistic hubris, he calls me to tell me he is breaking all contact with me because I heart his posts on FB, seriously? At this point, I am just glad he is happy and would like to be friends, because eventually we will cross paths as we share three grown Kids and four grandkids. She thinks I still have romantic feelings for him. Nope! Why would I hurt myself like that? I mean, come on, I’m not a massacist. Just as long as he knows it was him who broke everything after 37 years, and some months, I still haven’t gotten my decree!

I JUST WANT TO BE FREE NOW!!! Please.

I’m All Good!

BECAUSE I LOVE MYSELF!!!

Like a Phoenix Rising, I will be More than OKAY !!!

The Peace Of Meditation
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The Peace Of Meditation

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𝓢𝓸 𝔀𝓮 𝓶𝓪𝔂 𝓴𝓷𝓸𝔀 𝓖𝓸𝓭 𝓫𝓮𝓽𝓽𝓮𝓻
𝓐𝓷𝓭 𝓯𝓮𝓮𝓵 𝓗𝓲𝓼 𝓺𝓾𝓲𝓮𝓽 𝓹𝓸𝔀𝓮𝓻,
𝓛𝓮𝓽 𝓾𝓼 𝓭𝓪𝓲𝓵𝔂 𝓴𝓮𝓮𝓹 𝓲𝓷 𝓼𝓲𝓵𝓮𝓷𝓬𝓮
𝓐 𝓜𝓮𝓭𝓲𝓽𝓪𝓽𝓲𝓸𝓷 𝓗𝓸𝓾𝓻-
𝓕𝓸𝓻 𝓽𝓸 𝓾𝓷𝓭𝓮𝓻𝓼𝓽𝓪𝓷𝓭 𝓖𝓸𝓭’𝓼 𝓰𝓻𝓮𝓪𝓽𝓷𝓮𝓼𝓼
𝓐𝓷𝓭 𝓽𝓸 𝓾𝓼𝓮 𝓗𝓲𝓼 𝓰𝓲𝓯𝓽𝓼 𝓮𝓪𝓬𝓱 𝓭𝓪𝔂
𝓽𝓱𝓮 𝓼𝓸𝓾𝓵 𝓶𝓾𝓼𝓽 𝓵𝓮𝓪𝓻𝓷 𝓽𝓸 𝓶𝓮𝓮𝓽 𝓱𝓲𝓶
𝓘𝓷 𝓪 𝓶𝓮𝓭𝓲𝓽𝓪𝓽𝓲𝓿𝓮 𝔀𝓪𝔂,
𝓕𝓸𝓻 𝓸𝓾𝓻 𝓕𝓪𝓽𝓱𝓮𝓻 𝓽𝓮𝓵𝓵𝓼 𝓱𝓲𝓼 𝓬𝓱𝓲𝓵𝓭𝓻𝓮𝓷
𝓣𝓱𝓪𝓽 𝓲𝓯 𝓽𝓱𝓮𝔂 𝔀𝓸𝓾𝓵𝓭 𝓴𝓷𝓸𝔀 𝓗𝓲𝓼 𝔀𝓲𝓵𝓵
𝓣𝓱𝓮𝔂 𝓶𝓾𝓼𝓽 𝓼𝓮𝓮𝓴 𝓗𝓲𝓶 𝓲𝓷 𝓽𝓱𝓮 𝓼𝓲𝓵𝓮𝓷𝓬𝓮
𝓦𝓱𝓮𝓷 𝓪𝓵𝓵 𝓲𝓼 𝓬𝓪𝓵𝓶 𝓪𝓷𝓭 𝓼𝓽𝓲𝓵𝓵…
𝓕𝓸𝓻 𝓷𝓪𝓽𝓾𝓻𝓮’𝓼 𝓰𝓻𝓮𝓪𝓽𝓮𝓼𝓽 𝓯𝓸𝓻𝓬𝓮𝓼
𝓐𝓻𝓮 𝓯𝓸𝓾𝓷𝓭 𝓲𝓷 𝓺𝓾𝓲𝓮𝓽 𝓽𝓱𝓲𝓷𝓰𝓼
𝓛𝓲𝓴𝓮 𝓼𝓸𝓯𝓽𝓵𝔂 𝓯𝓪𝓵𝓵𝓲𝓷𝓰 𝓼𝓷𝓸𝔀𝓯𝓵𝓪𝓴𝓮𝓼
𝓓𝓻𝓲𝓯𝓽𝓲𝓷𝓰 𝓭𝓸𝔀𝓷 𝓸𝓷 𝓪𝓷𝓰𝓮𝓵’𝓼 𝔀𝓲𝓷𝓰𝓼,
𝓞𝓻 𝓹𝓮𝓽𝓪𝓵𝓼 𝓭𝓻𝓸𝓹𝓹𝓲𝓷𝓰 𝓼𝓸𝓾𝓷𝓭𝓵𝓮𝓼𝓼𝓵𝔂
𝓕𝓻𝓸𝓶 𝓪 𝓵𝓸𝓿𝓮𝓵𝔂 𝓯𝓾𝓵𝓵-𝓫𝓵𝓸𝔀𝓷 𝓻𝓸𝓼𝓮,
𝓢𝓸 𝓖𝓸𝓭 𝓬𝓸𝓶𝓮𝓼 𝓬𝓵𝓸𝓼𝓮 𝓽𝓸 𝓾𝓼
𝓦𝓱𝓮𝓷 𝓸𝓾𝓻 𝓼𝓸𝓾𝓵𝓼 𝓪𝓻𝓮 𝓲𝓷 𝓻𝓮𝓹𝓸𝓼𝓮…
𝓢𝓸 𝓵𝓮𝓽 𝓾𝓼 𝓹𝓵𝓪𝓷 𝔀𝓲𝓽𝓱 𝓹𝓻𝓪𝔂𝓮𝓻𝓯𝓾𝓵 𝓬𝓪𝓻𝓮
𝓣𝓸 𝓪𝓵𝔀𝓪𝔂𝓼 𝓪𝓵𝓵𝓸𝓬𝓪𝓽𝓮
𝓐 𝓬𝓮𝓻𝓽𝓪𝓲𝓷 𝓹𝓸𝓻𝓽𝓲𝓸𝓷 𝓸𝓯 𝓮𝓪𝓬𝓱 𝓭𝓪𝔂
𝓣𝓸 𝓫𝓮 𝓼𝓽𝓲𝓵𝓵 𝓪𝓷𝓭 𝓶𝓮𝓭𝓲𝓽𝓪𝓽𝓮…
𝓕𝓸𝓻 𝔀𝓱𝓮𝓷 𝓮𝓿𝓮𝓻𝔂𝓽𝓱𝓲𝓷𝓰 𝓲𝓼 𝓺𝓾𝓲𝓮𝓽
𝓐𝓷𝓭 𝔀𝓮’𝓻𝓮 𝓵𝓸𝓼𝓽 𝓲𝓷 𝓶𝓮𝓭𝓲𝓽𝓪𝓽𝓲𝓸𝓷,
𝓞𝓾𝓻 𝓼𝓸𝓾𝓵 𝓲𝓼 𝓽𝓱𝓮𝓷 𝓹𝓻𝓮𝓹𝓪𝓻𝓲𝓷𝓰
𝓕𝓸𝓻 𝓪 𝓭𝓮𝓮𝓹 𝓭𝓮𝓭𝓲𝓬𝓪𝓽𝓲𝓸𝓷
𝓣𝓱𝓪𝓽 𝔀𝓲𝓵𝓵 𝓶𝓪𝓴𝓮 𝓲𝓽 𝔀𝓱𝓸𝓵𝓵𝔂 𝓹𝓸𝓼𝓼𝓲𝓫𝓵𝓮
𝓣𝓸 𝓺𝓾𝓲𝓮𝓽𝓵𝔂 𝓮𝓷𝓭𝓾𝓻𝓮
𝓣𝓱𝓮 𝓿𝓲𝓸𝓵𝓮𝓷𝓽 𝔀𝓸𝓻𝓵𝓭 𝓪𝓻𝓸𝓾𝓷𝓭 𝓾𝓼-
𝓕𝓸𝓻 𝓖𝓸𝓭 𝔀𝓮 𝓪𝓻𝓮 𝓼𝓮𝓬𝓾𝓻𝓮.

A Special Christmas Eve…
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A Special Christmas Eve…

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                Before you go to sleep, my friends, and dream of Christmas morn, I wish to tell you of a legend that was to have happened around the shortly after Christ was born.

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The Legend of The Holly

The Legend of

The Holly

 

                                                                  In haste from Bethlehem,

                                                               And heard the tread of soldiers

                                                                    Coming in pursuit of them.

♦

There wasn’t any time at all

To find a hiding place,

For Herod’s men approached them

At a swift and steady pace.

♦

So Marry took her Little One

And with a whispered prayer,

Hid Him beneath a holly bush

With gentle, loving care.

♦

The wintered holly put forth leaves

To hide the Infant King,

And grew a guard of slender thorns

About Him in a ring.

♦

King Herod’s soldiers hurried past,

And all were unaware

The Infant whom they sought was safe

Within the holly’s care.

♦

The Christ Child blessed the holly then

So it would always be

Forever green— a sign of hope

And  Immortality.

♦

So now, at Christmas, holly plays

A very special part

Because one night it gently held

The Christ Child in its heart.

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Happiness Is a Gift By Alain
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Happiness Is a Gift By Alain

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Above all, and this seems quite apparent to me, it is impossible to be happy if one does not have the desire to be happy; one must therefore, will one’s happiness, and create it.
What has not been sufficiently stressed is that we have an obligation toward others to be happy. It is often said that only the happy are loved; but it is forgotten that this recompense is just and deserved; for unhappiness, boredom, and despair are in the air we all breath; and so we owe thanks and a laurel wreath to those who dissipate the miasmas and, in a sense, purify life around us with their energetic example.
There is indeed nothing more profound in love than the vow to be happy.
What can be more difficult to overcome than the boredom, sadness, or unhappiness of those we love?
Every man and every woman should keep in mind the fact that happiness -I mean the happiness one conquers for oneself- is the most beautiful and the most generous gift one can give.

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This is Nayana’s Post Just reblogging it…

Ingredients for the white chocolate layer :

1 1/2 cups ………………..heavy cream ( Used the brand Rich Cream)
3 tbsp………………..white chocolate ( grated )
3 tsp…………………agar agar
3 tsbp………………cold water.
1/2 tsp…………….chocolate essence

Method for the white chocolate layer :
Mix agar agar in  cold water and keep aside for 10 minutes.
Take two vessels one small and one little bigger than the first one.
Now boil water in the smaller one .
In a bigger thick bottom vessel add the cream  and white chocolate .
When the water in smaller vessel boils keep the bigger one on top of the smaller vessel.
Stir the mixture in the upper vessel continuously till the chocolates completely melts.
This is called double boiled method.
Do not heat the cream and chocolate directly or else the cream will start leaving fats.
Remove from the heat and add chocolate essence and agar agar water and mix very well.
Cool and keep aside for further use.
Ingredients for the coffee layer :
2tbsp……………………instant coffee powder
1/2 tbsp………………..agar agar
2tbsp……………………cold water
3tbsp…………………..sugar
1/2 cup water
Method for the coffee layer :
Mix agar agar to cold water and set aside for 10 minutes.
Boil  1/2 cup water, sugar and coffee powder .
Add it to the agar agar mixture and blend well.

Keep it aside for further use.

Assembling : 

In a glass add 1/3 rd of the coffee mixture at the base.
Keep the glasses in freezer for 1/2 an hour for quick cooling.
When the coffee layer is firm to touch add the white chocolate layer.
Again set it in fridge or freezer depending on how quick you want it to set.
Check for the firmness of white layer.
In fridge it will take 4 to 5 hours to set and in freezer about 1 to 1 n 1/2 hours to set.
Now top with the remaining coffee layer and again freeze till the top is firm
Serve chilled garnished with white chocolate scrapings.
My oldest son Is Getting Married…
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My oldest son Is Getting Married…

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Well, it happened again on November 21, 2017… Christopher Finally found the other half of his heart… and here is the happy Coupal …

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There she is Cassie, I love her so much she has been a great help to me and she truly unconditionally loves Chris… and I have another Great thing that Cassie was able to give Chris… Now  Mind you they dated for 4 yrs before getting married. I now have a Beautiful Grandson Bengiman Alner Morgan. 4/28/18

so now my son the EMT Has a family to be proud of and I am Way Proud of him.

after all the Crap he went through to get where he is he has almost all of his dreams met so he needs to start new ones soon. but no rush … I Love you My son Be safe you are Loved by so many, and we are all very very Proud of you!!37005307_2055997841109129_7895049891854942208_n

Just remember you can accomplish anything you set your mind to do… Never give up…

and its ok to fail . as long as you know you are doing everything in your power and doing it right? and it still goes south? then there was nothing you could do…

That is Life.

Love you,

Mom

Irish Coffee
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Irish Coffee

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This is one of my Favorites!  When its cold out and I want to share good cheer with friends. I went out and online and got its history and recipe so you could enjoy it too.

Irish Coffee

On a recent trip to Ireland, after a visit to the Foynes Flying boat museum our tour guide with the willing help of my brother-in-law demonstrated how to make a true Irish Coffee. I find Irish Coffee to be absolutely delicious, given my undying love for two wonderful things: coffee and whiskey!

Irish coffee in the original recipe glass from Foynes, Ireland |ethnicspoon.com

There, you learned something sordid and interesting about me. The reason for this love? Whiskey warms your spirit (no pun intended) and your body too. And coffee? Well, what’s not to love?

 

Irish coffee demonstration at Foynes flying boat museum. |ethnicspoon.com

Until recently I had no idea where Irish Coffee originated or how it came to be. Was it just a made up name? Restaurants are notorious for making up names to make dishes/beverages sound better than what they really are! The story about Irish coffee, however, is far from made up. It is truly romantic and fascinating to boot. So, at the request of a good friend, I am sharing with you the true origins of Irish Coffee and of course, the recipe too!

Irish Coffee was born in Foynes, Ireland, a small village in Co. Limerick on the Shannon River. Foynes is closely linked to the era of transatlantic aviation in the 30’s and 40’s. Early transatlantic planes did not possess the flying range to make it across the Atlantic in one shot. Foynes happened to be the last port of call before crossing the pond.  If the weather was bad, the planes could not fly or would have to return to Foynes until the weather conditions improved. The base at Foynes had a small restaurant that catered to patrons of air travel. Our guide told us that on a certain day in 1942 when the weather was exceptionally bad, a group of weary passengers, pilot, and crew, were forced to return to Foynes to await better flying conditions. Chef Joseph Sheridan who was on duty that day felt sorry for these weary travelers. At the request of his boss, he came up with a drink to warm up the passengers and crew.

Sheridan mixed coffee, Powers Irish whiskey, raw sugar and topped it with whipped cream (the real stuff of course). Passengers were delighted with the beverage. One of them asked: “Is this Brazilian coffee?” Sheridan replied: “No, it’s Irish Coffee.” And thus it began. I told you it was a great story! Unfortunately, I have not been able to find Powers Irish whiskey in the US, major bummer, but Jameson’s works quite well.

Powers' Irish whiskey, the original Irish coffee ingredient. | ethnicspoon.com

The Irish coffee we enjoyed at Foynes is without a doubt the best Irish Coffee I have ever had. Living in the frigid Northeastern U.S. I can tell you for sure that I will be enjoying my fair share of this drink in the winter months to come. Slainte!

BTW… if you are ever in Ireland, make sure to visit the Foynes Flying Boats Museum. It is fascinating.

If you are looking for more Irish recipes to make for Saint Patrick’s Day or anytime at home here are a few of my favorites to try.  Irish butter cookies are favorite melt in your mouth shortbread cookie recipe that does call for Irish butter, no substitutes.  If you want to make a hearty meal for your family then you have to try Dublin coddle with Irish bangers and vegetables or Guinness beef stew.  Serve these two hearty dishes with Irish soda bread or a sweeter version, Irish brown bread.

 

Irish coffee recipe and history from Foynes Ireland began with the flying boats in the early days of tran-Atlantic flight. | ethnicspoon.com
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Irish Coffee

Here are the authentic recipe and story of how Irish coffee came to be back in the early days of Trans-Atlantic flight from Foynes Ireland.

 Course Drink
 Cuisine Irish
 Keyword authentic, coffee cocktail, hot drink, hot toddy
 Prep Time 10 minutes
 Cook Time 5 minutes
 Total Time 15 minutes
 Servings: Change to adjust->  serving
 Calories 163 kcal
 Author Analida

Ingredients

  • 1 cup coffee strong, black
  • 1 tsp sugar raw is best
  • 1.5 oz whiskey Irish
  • 1/4 cup whipped cream Use real whipped cream

Instructions

  1. For this recipe, you should use a glass ( a wine glass works well).
  2. Heat the glass by pouring boiling water into it and allow it to sit for a minute or so. Dump out the water.

  3. Place raw sugar in the glass and add the coffee and stir.

  4. Add the whiskey and stir.
  5. Top with whipped cream.
Nutrition Facts
Irish Coffee
Amount Per Serving
Calories 163Calories from Fat 27
% Daily Value*
Total Fat 3g5%
Saturated Fat 2g10%
Cholesterol 11mg4%
Sodium 5mg0%
Potassium 116mg3%
Total Carbohydrates 6g2%
Sugars 5g
Vitamin A2.1%
Calcium1.5%
* Percent Daily Values are based on a 2000 calorie diet.
I do hope you enjoyed my friend’s site and story. and enjoy the tasty Coffee beverage…
Thre Rights Of Any Friendship or Aquantence
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Thre Rights Of Any Friendship or Aquantence

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I. You have the right to act toward others according to your own beliefs and values (not according to theirs), to live your own life (not to be lived by others), to live out your own decisions and to live with their consequences.

II. You have the right to see others as equal (regardless of how they see you), to esteem others as neither superior nor inferior (in spite of how they esteem you).

 III.You have the right to renegotiate relationships (although the others resist review), to take new positions (though the others prefer the old), to change your mind (even when others doubt you have one).

IV. You have the right to fail (therefore the right to choose freely), the right to make mistakes (therefore the right to take risks).

V. You have the right to see your own perceptions, to feel your own feelings, to think your own thoughts, to act your own actions, to experience your own accountability.

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The Essence of a Friend…
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The Essence of a Friend…

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We have many, many, many, acquaintances in this life, But Few real friends.

When you think about it you want to be sad, Don’t this is how its supposed to be. I was trying to teach my teen daughter it is possible to have more than one best friend. where she argued a blue streak saying it just was not possible. I have learned otherwise there are different kinds of friends.

  1. The friendly acquaintance.
  2.        Your casual friend( you know the one from high school you call every 6 mo to a year just to make sure their breathing, go camping or watch the super bowl with, or Ladies you go shopping twice a year.)
  3.         Then there are your close friends,( You know the ones you hang with at the bar or coffee shop. once or twice a week.)
  4.        Best friend type A:(the one you take to the gym, see every other day but still no call’s after 11pm. and you share your every day struggles to a point)
  5.       BEST Friend best of the best.(the ones you call family even though you’re not related. Brothers from different mothers and sisters of the same.You share everything day or night ups, downs there is never TMI.)

 

For me, I love all unconditionally, and sometimes its hard to distinguish between 1&2.

but it happens and I get hurt. In explaining this to my daughter she started to get it.

Sometimes when I think of the people I consider family, some I have known for years and some only months and some I even never seen or I have but not in person all I do is talk to them on messenger or skype. but they are good people. you know how kids today say I have an app for that? well, I say I have a Friend for that.  I have friends that share in most all of my interests and I have friends that share life experiences, so when I need my friends I go to the ones that can help the most first and then the rest. to start a spiral justImage result for sea shells

like the structure of the large shell, I’m in the center and all my Friends and Family are gathered around creating this strong support network.

Are you Getting it yet? its the same for you. there are some simple rules to follow…

  1. Always be Honest (Don’t Lie to your Friends)
  2. learn when to plead the fifth, ( to say I have no opinion)
  3. Always Listen, even when you think they’re totally out of their mind.
  4.  Never Ever Take Your Friends For Granted!!!
  5. always have words of encouragement ready when needed.
  6. Don’t be afraid to tell your friends they are Messing up.
  7. If you can, give your friend the tools to get back on track.This is when I teach. If they have needs that need to be met, use your best judgment  and refer to rule 11.(as a rule, I always buy what they need if it concerns money if I have it. I never give Cash or checks to friends No offense.)
  8. Never leave an argument unsettled( if you cant agree, agree to disagree)
  9.  Always let your friends know how you feel.
  10. always let them know they are loved.(give hugs when needed)
  11. The word NO is not the end of a friendship.
  12. FORGIVENESS is not a weakness…
  13. All Apologies are from the heart and it is not a weakness to do so if you royally screwed up, is a sign of the strength of your character.

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